Do
What You Are, Third Edition: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through
the Secrets of Personality Type
by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger
SUIT
YOURSELF
The Secret of Career Satisfaction
It's important to find the right job.
Despite the universal fantasies of winning the lottery, buying expensive
cars and homes, and doing fascinating work with interesting people in
exotic places, the sober reality is that most of us have to work, hard,
for a long time. If you spend forty to fifty years not an unlikely
scenario working at jobs you'd rather not be doing, you are in truth
throwing away a large part of your life. This is unnecessary and sad,
especially since a career you can love is within your reach.
What Is the Ideal Job, Anyway?
The right job enhances your life. It is
personally fulfilling because it nourishes the most important aspects of
your personality. It suits the way you like to do things and reflects who
you are. It lets you use your innate strengths in ways that come naturally
to you, and it doesn't force you to do things you don't do well (at least,
not often!).
How can you tell if you're in the right
job? Here are some general guidelines. If you're not employed, keep them
in mind as you search for your ideal job. If you are employed, see how
your present job measures up.
If you're in the right job, you should:
Look forward to going to work
Feel energized (most of the time) by what you do
Feel your contribution is respected and appreciated
Feel proud when describing your work to others
Enjoy and respect the people you work with
Feel optimistic about your future
We'd like to make something clear right
away. It's important to recognize that there are as many different paths
to career satisfaction as there are happily employed people. There is no
one "ideal job" to which everyone should aspire. But there is an
ideal job for you.
There are an infinite number of variables
in the workplace. To achieve career satisfaction, you need to figure out
what your preferences are and then find a job that accommodates them. Some
jobs provide warmth and stability; some are risky and challenging. Some
are structured, some aren't. One job may require a lot of socializing,
while another may require quiet concentration. Do you know exactly what
kind of job suits you best? Have you ever even stopped to think about it?
It's a good thing there are so many
different kinds of jobs available, since people are so different in their
abilities and priorities. Some people enjoy making high-level management
decisions; others simply aren't suited to making these kinds of choices.
For some people, money is a top priority. They want to make lots of it!
Others, however, want most to make a contribution to society; the money is
less important. Some people are perfectly comfortable with facts and
details and statistics, while others get a headache just trying to read a
profit-and-loss statement. And so on, and so on!
When we were hired to conduct a series of
personal effectiveness training workshops for job placement professionals
(also known as executive recruiters or headhunters), we came face-to-face
with a dramatic example of how a job that is perfect for one person can be
perfectly wrong for another.
We were training several headhunters who
worked for the same recruiting firm. Their job was to find applicants to
fill positions at a variety of companies by calling people who were
already employed and convincing them to apply for these positions. If an
applicant successfully switched jobs and stayed with the new company for
at least three months, the placement counselor received a generous
commission. It was a highly competitive, results-oriented job that
required excellent communication skills and the ability to fill as many
positions as possible as quickly as possible.
One of the placement counselors we trained,
Arthur, couldn't have been happier. He loved the fast pace of the job.
Arthur was a high-energy person, a great talker who enjoyed meeting lots
of people over the phone. He used his excellent reasoning skills to
persuade other people to make a move to a new opportunity, and he got a
lot of satisfaction out of meeting his goal and then some. Arthur knew and
understood the formula: for every fifty calls he made, he'd get ten people
who were interested, and out of these ten, he might make two or three
placements. Arthur's "thick skin" helped him in the job because
he often heard "no" during the day, but he never took the
rejection personally. What Arthur found really energizing was closing the
sale and moving on to the next challenge. He worked hard all day long and
made a lot of money.
For Julie, it was a totally different
story. Like Arthur, Julie enjoyed talking to lots of people all day and
establishing relationships with them. However, unlike Arthur, Julie wanted
to help each person find the job that would be really right for him or
her. She liked to look for opportunities that would enable her applicants
to grow and experience personal success and satisfaction. Julie had been
cautioned repeatedly by her supervisor about spending too much time on the
phone with each individual rather than quickly determining whether or not
someone was interested in a position and then moving on to the next
prospect. Rather than filling jobs, Julie was counseling clients. The fact
that she could make a great deal of money did not motivate her. She found
little reward in simply filling a job opening with a person who probably
wasn't right for the position but whom she had successfully pressured into
giving it a try.
When we returned six weeks later for a
follow-up training session, we weren't surprised to learn that Julie had
quit.
People are different in their needs,
desires, interests, skills, values, and personalities. Unless you and I
have similar personality types, work that you find intrinsically enjoyable
is likely to have a different, even opposite, effect on me. Different jobs
and even different aspects of jobs satisfy different types of people, a
fundamental truth which has, in our view, not been fully appreciated by
career advisers or career manuals until now.
To Suit Yourself, You Must Know Yourself
As we said earlier, the secret of career
satisfaction lies in doing what you enjoy most. A few lucky people
discover this secret early in life, but most of us are caught in a kind of
psychological wrestling match, torn between what we think we can do, what
we (or others) feel we ought to do, and what we think we want to do. Our
advice? Concentrate instead on who you are, and the rest will fall into
place.
Not long ago, a friend called us. She calls
all the time there's a phone in practically every room of her home
but this was more than a social call. Ellen was mad. A co-worker of hers
whom she regarded as "more boring than a turnip" had been given
a prime assignment designing a complex computer system for a growing
retail chain. Ellen, who had been hired just six months before to do
exactly this kind of work, was stunned. Obviously something was wrong
but what?
Ellen had evaluated her new job with the
utmost care before accepting it. She had both the analytical ability and
the background experience the job required. She was well liked and found
the technical aspects of the job challenging. She'd had a series of
unsatisfying jobs before, but this one was going to be different. So why
was her golden opportunity turning to brass? Worse... why was the turnip
doing better than she?
We thought we knew the answer. Ellen's
co-worker, as she described him, was absolutely content to work long hours
in relative isolation, quietly but steadily getting the job done. He
wasn't a lot of fun around the office, but he was intelligent and
dependable, and he never made waves. He was, in fact, the perfect person
for the job and he was happy doing it.
Ellen, on the other hand, loved the
stimulation of rallying her staff for an urgent deadline and enjoyed
talking to clients about their needs. She was terrific at explaining the
intricacies of computer systems and could charm people into doing
remarkable things. She liked going to industry conferences, and she didn't
mind spending all day in meetings. Unfortunately, none of these activities
were a significant part of her new position.
It was clear to us that even though Ellen
could handle her responsibilities adequately, the job required more
solitude, concentration, and what we call "task focus" than she
liked. As she talked things through (and some people are like that they
like to think out loud), she began to recognize that in all her careful
planning she had overlooked just one thing... her own personality!
At this point in our conversation, Ellen
panicked. She was afraid she had spent eight years in the wrong career. No
wonder she'd found her previous jobs less than thrilling! However, she
wasn't actually in the wrong field she was just working in the wrong
end of it. Ellen moved over into the sales division of the same company,
and today she is thriving in her new position.
Perhaps a little experiment will clarify
what we're talking about. On a piece of paper, or even in the margin,
write your signature. Done? OK. Now do the same thing, using your opposite
hand. (If you just groaned, you are not alone; most people have a similar
reaction.) How did it feel when you used your preferred hand? Most people
use words like "natural," "easy," "quick,"
"effortless." How did it feel when you used the opposite hand?
Some typical responses: "slow," "awkward,"
"hard," "draining," "tiring," "it took
much longer," "it required more energy and concentration."
We think that handedness is a good way to
think about using your natural strengths in your work. The use of your
preferred hand is comfortable and assured. If you were forced to use your
other hand, you could no doubt develop your abilities but using that
hand would never be as effortless as using your preferred hand, and the
finished product would never be as skillfully executed.
The Traditional Approach and Why It
Doesn't Work
Career professionals have long been aware
that certain kinds of people are better at certain types of jobs, and that
it's important to find as good a match as possible between the person you
are and the kind of job you choose. The problem is that the traditional
approach doesn't take enough considerations into account. The conventional
analysis looks at only the "big three": your abilities,
interests, and values.
As career counselors ourselves, we
recognize the importance of these factors. Certainly you need the right
skills to perform a job well. It also helps if you're interested in your
work. And it's important to feel good about what you do. But this is far
from the whole picture! Your personality has additional dimensions that
also need to be recognized. As a general rule, the more aspects of your
personality you match to your work, the more satisfied you'll be on the
job.
As we saw with Ellen, a vital consideration
often overlooked is how much stimulation from other people you
need in your work. Are you more energized by being around lots of people
most of the time, or are you more comfortable in small groups, talking
one-on-one, or maybe working alone? You can see what a profound impact
this preference can have upon your choice of a job. Other important
factors include the kind of information you naturally notice, the way you
make decisions, and whether you prefer to live in a more structured or a
more spontaneous way. These preferences reflect mental processes that are
basic to every human being but that clearly differ from one personality
type to another. Trying to find the best job for you without taking these
preferences into account is like trying to find a tiny island in the vast
ocean without a chart. With luck, you might get there but you might
not!
Joanne was a client of ours who came to us
in a career crisis. At the age of thirty, she was at the end of her rope.
After seven years of teaching math at the elementary school level she was
completely burned out and was wondering if she was in the right career.
Being a teacher had seemed the most natural
thing in the world for Joanne. The eldest of four, she had grown up taking
care of children. She had excelled in math throughout school and was
interested in education. Joanne had received some career counseling early
on, and all the signs had seemed to point in the same direction. In high
school, and again in college, Joanne had taken the standard career
aptitude tests and assessment instruments to determine her skills, her
interests, and her values. Each time, career counselors had encouraged her
to obtain a teaching degree and to teach math to young kids. Everything
seemed perfect.
After her first challenging year, Joanne
became increasingly frustrated with the rigid structure of the public
elementary school setting. She disliked the endless rules both she and the
students had to live by as well as many of the rules she had to enforce.
She hated having to prepare lesson plans six weeks in advance that left
her unable to respond to the interests of the children and to her own
creative inspirations. She found the standard workbooks inane, and the
busywork that both she and her students were required to do left her
drained and irritated. Joanne felt very isolated because her colleagues
all seemed to have interests and values that were not like hers, and she
began to discover that she missed the intellectual stimulation of working
on challenging projects with her intellectual equals. She had tried
switching grades and even changing schools, but nothing seemed to help.
After talking with us, Joanne was relieved
to discover that she wasn't crazy; she was just in the wrong career. As
her early counselors had determined, Joanne had many of the right
qualifications for teaching. However, the things she found most
stimulating intellectual challenge, opportunities to raise her level
of competence, and creative innovation were totally lacking in her
job. Moreover, the public school setting forced her to work in a highly
structured and detailed way, which was not at all the way she liked to
operate.
Luckily, the solution quickly became clear.
We suggested that Joanne return to school and obtain a master's degree in
order to teach math still a thriving interest of hers in higher
education. In a college setting, she would be able to enjoy much more
flexibility in her work schedule and obligations, teach more complicated
courses, and be part of an intellectual environment.
Joanne did get a master's degree, and
shortly thereafter she accepted a position in the math department of a
small college. Today she teaches graduate-level math courses while
continuing her studies toward obtaining a Ph.D.
There's also another reason why the
traditional approach to career counseling is inadequate. The "big
three" your abilities, interests, and values all change with
age. As you gain work experience, you gain new skills. As you live longer,
you may pick up new interests and discard old ones. And often your goals
are different later in life than they were earlier. You can keep changing
your career according to where you find yourself at a particular point in
time, or you can base your choice from the beginning on a deeper
understanding of who you are (and who you'll always be!).
Alex is a thirty-nine-year-old internist
with a successful practice in a Chicago suburb. While he was growing up it
was always assumed that he would follow in the family tradition and become
a doctor. Through twelve years of college, medical school, internship, and
residency, he never allowed himself to question his decision. After
practicing medicine for five years, he has come to a painful conclusion
with far-reaching implications for himself and his family: he doesn't want
to be a doctor any more. What's more, he realizes he probably never did.
Alex's predicament is not unusual. If you
doubt this, pick any ten people you know and ask them, "If you could
have any job you wanted, what would it be?" Our experience as career
counselors suggests that at least half would rather be doing something
else.
Most of us make our most important career
decisions when we are least prepared to do so. The decisions we make early
in life set into motion a chain of events that will influence our entire
lives. Yet when we're young we have little or no experience making job
choices, and we tend to have an overabundance of idealistic enthusiasm,
plus a reckless lack of concern for future consequences. We haven't lived
long enough to see ourselves tested in a variety of situations, and we're
highly susceptible to bad advice from well-intentioned parents, teachers,
counselors, or friends. No wonder so many people get off to a poor start.
The solution? To achieve as great a degree
of self-awareness as you can before making any decision with long-lasting
career consequences. Happily, "finding yourself" does not
require a guru, a lot of money, or any period of experimentation.
You Can't Help It You Were Born That
Way!
Since the right job flows directly out of
all the elements of your personality type, you need to spend some time
figuring out what makes you tick. By making a conscious effort to discover
the "real you," you can learn how to focus your natural
strengths and inclinations into a career you can love for as long as you
choose to work. This is where Type is so helpful. It provides a
systematic, effective way to evaluate both your strong points and your
probable weaknesses or blind spots. Once you have these figured out,
you'll know how to make sure you are always operating from a position of
strength.
Each one of us has a distinct personality,
like an innate blueprint that stays with us for life. We are born with a
personality type, we go through life with that type, and when we are laid
to rest (hopefully at the end of a long and fruitful life), it is with the
same type.
Now you are probably wondering, "Wait
a minute. I might be one way sometimes, but at other times I'm a very
different person. Doesn't the situation influence my personality
type?"
The answer is no, it doesn't. Do we change
our behavior in certain situations? Certainly! Most human beings have a
tremendous repertoire of behaviors available to them. We couldn't function
very successfully if we didn't. Sure, we act differently at work than we
do at home, and it makes a difference whether we're with strangers, close
friends, at a ball park, or at a funeral. But people don't change their
basic personalities with every new door they walk through.
All this is not to say that environmental
factors are not extremely important; they are. Parents, siblings,
teachers, and economic, social, and political circumstances all can play a
role in determining what directions our lives take. Some people are forced
by circumstances to act in a certain way until they are literally
"not themselves" (more about this later. But we all start off
with a particular personality type that predisposes us to behave in
certain ways for our entire lives.
If you are skeptical about the idea that
personality type is inborn, take a look at different children from the
same family. These could be your own children, your siblings, or even
children from a family you know. Do they have different personalities? You
bet they do, and often the differences are apparent from birth (or even in
utero).
The concept of "personality type"
is not new. People have always been aware of the similarities and
differences between individuals, and over the centuries many systems and
models for understanding or categorizing these differences have been
developed. Today, our understanding of human behavior has been expanded to
such a degree that we are now able to accurately identify sixteen
distinctly different personality types.
Finding the right job for each of these
distinct personalities may seem like an awesome task. However, all sixteen
personality types do function in the world. As we will see, it is possible
to identify your own personality type and the types of others, to
understand why certain types flourish in certain kinds of jobs, and to
clarify why people find career satisfaction in different ways.
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Tieger
and Barbara Barron-Tieger
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