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Condition Yourself to Love Unconditionally
NEW!
by Mary Jo Shaffer
Even in the healthiest of relationships, opportunities abound to find fault, criticize or "tweak" the other person no matter whether we are talking about a mate, a child or a friend. Most of us were raised in an environment where rather than focusing on the positive, we were taught to zoom in and dwell on the negative. Breaking that habitual way of thinking is a matter of conditioning our minds to refocus and learn to love with abandon, without any requirements, without any rules and without any limitations.
Here is our list of top ten ways to condition yourself to love
unconditionally.
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Love, Compassion, and Tolerance NEW!
by His Holiness the Dalai Lama
“Love, compassion, and tolerance are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.”
The essence of all religions is love, compassion, and tolerance. Kindness is my true religion. No matter whether you are learned or not, whether you believe in the next life or not, whether you believe in God or Buddha or some other religion or not, in day-to-day life you must be a kind person. When you are motivated by kindness, it doesn’t matter whether you are a practitioner, a lawyer, a politician, an administrator, a worker, or an engineer: whatever your profession or field, deep down you are a kind
person. Love, compassion, and tolerance are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive. If you have a particular faith or religion, that is good. But you can survive without it if you have love, compassion, and tolerance. The clear proof of a person’s love of God is if that person genuinely shows love to fellow human beings.
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Take Me to Truth, Undoing the Ego: An Interview with Authors Nouk Sanchez and Tomas
Vieira
by Gene Bogart, Forgiveness TV
Gene: As potential readers see literally thousands of
spiritually oriented books out there, how does Take Me to Truth,
Undoing the Ego present a unique benefit to those who sincerely desire
spiritual awakening?
Nouk and Tomas: This is not your intellectual brand
of awakening. This is for those who genuinely want to undo the root cause
of all suffering – the ego. We offer a guide for those who wish to
participate in the daily practice of undoing their ego. Awakening occurs
through the conscious application of three major principles being, Quantum
forgiveness, Radical self-inquiry and Now moment presence. Many religious
and spiritual studies are predicated on the belief that God created this
world; our book is based on the principles of A
Course in Miracles, which explains that God did not create this world,
we did. From absolute Oneness, which is Infinite Love there emerged a
“tiny mad idea” of separation, an illusion of separate individuals. We
fell into a dream of this present world of time and space; a dream of
duality.
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Can You Afford Not to Forgive?
by Laura Scott
During a deep discussion someone close to me revealed that they were unable to forgive themselves for some things they had done. They knew it was preventing them from moving forward with their dreams, but they had absolutely no idea how to get past it. Watching someone you love suffer is awful, and worse if you are witnessing needless suffering. It got me to thinking about the purpose of guilt and how to help someone, even myself, to move into a place of forgiveness.
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___________________ Whatever the Question, Love is the Answer
by Jean-Claude Gerard Koven
With each passing day the gathering storm clouds that threaten the lives
of humankind darken. Every effort to stave off the inevitable and achieve
lasting peace has failed. Perhaps it is time for us to adopt a new game
plan?
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Struggling To Forgive
the Unforgivable
by Immaculée Ilibagiza
I was deep in prayer when the killers came
to search the house a second time.
It was past noon, and I’d been praying the rosary since dawn for God to
give His love and forgiveness to all the sinners in the world. But try as
I might, I couldn’t bring myself to pray for the killers. That was a
problem for me because I knew that God expected us to pray for everyone,
and more than anything, I wanted God on my side.
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Thriving: Ten
Ways to Make Peace With The Past And Create A New Future
by Suzanne Gold
Everyone comes into life with a purpose. You are a unique expression of
the universal life force at the foundation of your being. Spirit guides
you from the moment your life begins, and the people and events of your
life reflect your soul's journey. No one else ever has or will affect the
world as you do. With every act, word or thought, you are adding to
All-That-Is.
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“Financial” Matters
by Dr. Trish Whynot
Money issues are encountered by many on their journey toward
self-discovery. Be it financial lack or difficulty enjoying the money you
have, money struggles are most often not the “real” issue. Money is an
energy and a financial issue is a messenger … it is an indicator … it
is a symptom. Financial lack can indicate a depleted state—an imbalance
with your giving and receiving. It manifests as more money going out than
is coming in. Financial lack can also be indicating issues with value,
self-worth or image. Financial struggles can be presenting a message that
you have placed too much weight on money. If you place your safety and
security on how much money you have in the bank, you have given it too
much weight and spending money could be frightening, even if you have an
abundance of it. These are but a few messages that your financial matters
could be attempting to bring you.
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____________________ How to Stop Being Judgmental
by Carole Tyler
"If her past were your past, her pain your pain, her level of
consciousness your level of consciousness, you would think and act exactly
as she does. With this realization comes forgiveness, compassion,
peace." -- Eckert Tolle
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Forgiveness - The Path To Healing
& Spiritual Growth
by Lisa Hoskins
The dictionary defines the word forgive as: [to pardon, as to for-give an
enemy; to cease to feel resentment for, as to forgive an offense].
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____________________ On Developing Resiliency
by Asoka Selvarajah
Life is tough.
Of that, there is no doubt. Buddhism actually teaches that the essence of
the unenlightened life IS suffering. This is the truth of it. Nobody has
it easy. Neither pauper nor king, neither bacterium nor whale - all suffer
to a greater or lesser extent, and all are subject to that ultimate
suffering we call Death. Life feeds on life. People, it would seem, often
feed on each other.
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Fighting Terror with Forgiveness
by D. Patrick Miller
Let’s face it - most people probably think of forgiveness as the last
resort of losers. It’s what you’re left with after you’ve been
victimized and can’t figure out a way to inflict revenge. If there’s
no way to even the score, then you might as well settle for feeling a
little better about yourself by becoming noble. And if you forgive what
happened to you, maybe someday you can forget all about it. Or, maybe
whoever hurt you will eventually feel guilty about what they did, and come
begging for your forgiveness. Then you get to decide whether they deserve
it. (Probably not!)
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Angel to Angel
by Skye Thomas
Years ago, my minister spoke to us about how you could solicit the help of
your guardian angels to help with conflict resolution. She told us stories
about how she and others had successfully asked their guardian angels to
speak to the enemy's guardian angel. The idea being that when you find
yourself in an argumentative situation with someone, that you could
request that your guardian angel talk angel to angel with their guardian
angel about finding a win-win situation. She gave us examples of times
when after asking for the angels to help mediate the problem, that the
other party suddenly softened and the solutions began to easily show
themselves. As she told the stories of her successes with this approach to
problem solving, I began to think about how to use it in my own life.
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8 Real Life Energy Boosting Secrets You Can Use Today!
by Charlotte
Anthony
Energy – the natural resource in shortest supply, especially for the 100
million Americans who are suffering from chronic or incurable illness.
Just thinking of everyone who needs you can sap out what little energy you
have left. Maybe you feel like you can’t possibly get it all done.
But you know you HAVE to. People depend on you everyday. Your family. Your
friends. Your coworkers. Your clients. Even your pets! To meet the demands
of life today, you can’t afford to have your energy depleted. So here
are some ways to easily boost those levels right away.
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A Lesson In Forgiveness
by S. J. Connolly-Reisner
Two weeks before my cousin’s wedding I
resigned as her bridesmaid. It was a rash decision. She was overwhelmed
with the stress of planning her wedding. I was overwhelmed with stress at
work. An argument ensued. We did not speak to one another for two years.
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Some Things Can Be
Fixed; Others Must Heal
by
Thom Rutledge
Are you a fixer? When someone tells you a problem they are having, do you
immediately feel the need to offer advice? Is it difficult for you to just
listen to someone who is in distress, to just be there for them without
knowing precisely what to say or do? Are you uncomfortable with anything
being in limbo? Are you addicted to certainties? Does your self-esteem
depend on your ability to make things right for other people? If you're
answering yes to some of these questions, you are probably a fixer.
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Get To Know Yourself
by Kimberly Fulcher
Eight Baby Steps To Knowing Your “Self"
Who are you? What do you stand for?
What do you believe in? What engages your passion? What brings
tears of gratitude and joy to your eyes? Do you know, or have you
lost yourself? In my work as a professional coach, I’ve helped
many people rediscover themselves. The first step on the road to
rediscovery involves spending time with you, which is why I liken the
process to dating yourself.
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Ask Psychic Medium Laura Scott (Issue #4)
by Laura Scott
Dear Laura,
I will be moving out of the state I presently live in soon, however my
house in this state has not sold yet, and my husband has offered to stay
here until it is. My major concern is that I do not feel he will be
joining me when the house sells. For two years we have had problems
since I found out he cheated on me. We are supposedly trying to work
our problems out, but, I get the impression, that he does not really want
to. I'm desperately afraid he will cheat again, and doesn't really
love me at all. I am very confused, and don't know where to turn.
What are your thoughts on this?
Jan
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Book
The Unburdened Heart
5 Keys to
Forgiveness and Freedom
by Mariah Burton Nelson
"I was 14 when Bruce started molesting me. He was 25, already a
father and coach. The abuse ended three summers later when my family
happened to move across the country. The impact of the abuse persisted for
more than two decades. Then I wondered, Might forgiveness be possible?
Then, everything changed."
Thus opens Mariah Burton Nelson's new book.
Drawing on her poignant story of betrayal and reconciliation, along with
new psychological research, ancient spiritual wisdom, poetry, and original
interviews with others who have forgiven for offenses great and small, she
shows how forgiveness can heal. The one who is healed -- the forgiver --
becomes free from the pain of the past, and also free to love differently,
and love more, in the future.
Mariah discussed The Unburdened
Heart on Good Morning America on May 29, 2000.
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How and Why I Forgave My Molester
by Mariah Burton Nelson
When I was fourteen, fifteen,
and sixteen, my swimming coach, a husband and father, molested me. He
convinced me we were having "an affair."
Much later, in my thirties, as
I began to understand that the accurate term was not "an affair"
but "statutory rape," I became enraged. I had been a young
teenager! He was twenty-five! That’s not adultery, that’s sexual
abuse!
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The Traumatized Heart
by Linda Marks
When I was sixteen years old a stranger
tried to rape and murder me. I was walking home at night past the
Brigham's restaurant where I had my second job, as a stranger came out of
the shadows and tried to strangle me. I tried to fight him with my
physical strength, but he was 6'1' and I was just a 5'6' teenage girl, no
matter how physically fit I was. I tried to fight him with my mind,
telling him the legal implications of what he was doing and that just got
him mad. As he dragged me into an alley and started beating me, I realized
I was powerless and prayed to the God I had never been raised to believe
in to help me choose my life.
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My Most Important Truths
by Eeta Sachon
After reading hundreds of New Age and
self-help books, going to countless workshops and lectures, and practicing
with my new tools on a regular basis, I've decided to make a collection of
the ideas and tools that have been the most profound for me.
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Myths
and Truths About Forgiveness
by Mariah Burton Nelson
Some people are wary of forgiveness, having been told that they should
"forgive and forget." Usually this means: Keep quiet, stop
complaining, let him off the hook, and welcome him back into your life. No
wonder we're wary.
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The Freedom of Self-Forgiveness
by Mariah Burton Nelson
Yesterday my neighbor and good friend Palma asked if I could meet
her ten-year-old daughter Elaine at the bus stop next week and bring her
to my house for thirty minutes while Palma drives home from somewhere
else. I didn’t hear the “somewhere else” part because my own
internal monologue was too loud. “Go to the bus stop? At four in the
afternoon? Baby-sit? What about my work? Why aren’t self-employed people
treated with the same respect...”
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In The Spirit of Happiness
The Seeker
by The Monks of New Skete
It is many years now since he first visited
the monastery, though the details of that day linger quietly in his
memory. On that clear October afternoon he thought upstate New York was
among the most beautiful places in the world. He had come from the Far
West, sweeping airborne over ten states with barely a cloud in the sky.
From the plane, the beauty of the Catskills, the Hudson River Valley, then
finally the vague outline of the Adirondacks to the north took his breath
away. He had always loved flying, but passing through the vast expanse of
space, from one time zone to the next, he sensed a parallel passage taking
place inwardly as well, one leading him inexorably into a new life. Were
we to give him a name, none would be better than simply "the
Seeker."
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___________________ An Open Heart
by The Dalai Lama and Nicholas Vreeland
When we look at the happiness
we seek and the suffering we wish to avoid, most evident are the pleasant
and unpleasant feelings we have as a result of our sensory experience of
the tastes, smells, textures, sounds, and forms that we perceive around
us. There is, however, another level of experience. True happiness must be
pursued on the mental level as well.
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Prescription For A Broken Heart
by Alina Ruigrok
Being heartbroken is a pain that no one can understand until they have
experienced it for themselves. You obviously have, therefore are aware of
how fragile your heart is right now. Healing a broken heart will take
time, but is not impossible, though it may feel that way at the time. It
is never an easy process to go through, but with the right prescription,
you will be on your way to recovery and happiness again.
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The Easy Gift of Forgiveness
by Jeannette Sanders
For many years I struggled with hidden
blocks in being able to reach my life goals. I couldn’t figure out what
was holding me back or why it was so difficult to succeed. I figured it
had to be something outside myself. “It ’s the way the world is
right now,” I’d say, or perhaps “it’s because I’m a woman in a
man’s world.”
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___________________ Aspects Of
The Heart: Rekindling Lost Love
by Elizabeth Spring
Twenty years married. Four years divorced, and now we're six months into
seriously dating—again. Its not an uncommon scenario, but it certainly
is one that makes people smile when we tell them our story! Like a good
ending to a movie, love survives. Some people can heal. We're hoping we
can.
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___________________ Thoughts On Justice And
Renewal
by Cristin Snyder
Much talk has gone on recently
about a need for Justice. There is no doubt that we must put an end to
terror, but what I want to talk to all of you about today is how all of
this effects us on a personal level. What does justice mean to you? We are
all at a time where we must face this question, not only in regards to
dealing with wartime tragedies, but also with dealing with personal
spiritual and emotional wounds which are also crying out to be addressed.
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Forgiveness, A Journey To
Freedom
by Trish Whynot, D.C.Ed.
Forgiveness is a journey toward freedom from our past. It is a process
that takes some effort and along the road there are plateaus that we
reach. We may think that forgiveness is complete at these resting points
and then something comes up to show us that there is more work to be done.
These plateaus are where we tend to get stuck, to be hard on ourselves and
to judge. The process of forgiveness is transformational; it is complex,
not to be taken lightly and not something that can be done on command. Be
patient and tender with yourself on your journey toward forgiveness. You
will know you have forgiven when only love and gratitude remain in your
heart for the person you desire to forgive and for the opportunity for
personal growth and healing that was presented.
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A Plentiful Harvest:
Creating Balance and Harmony Through the Seven Living Virtues
by Terrie Williams
As a child, I once listened to a minister tell a story about how he had
been called by God to preach. He cried as he told us about being healed of
his addictions and "carnal" living and compelled to worship God
and serve the community. Wow, I thought, to be handpicked by God to do
something special must be awesome.
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