Reclaiming Your Self-Worth
by Amy Hale

How comfortable are you with your self-worth? Self-worth is important to the ultimate happiness you feel in your life because it is deeply tied into your ability to attain your desires. 

In order to move forward with your desires, you need perseverance. So why do we sometimes give up so easily? Many of us feel that there are not enough hours in the day to pursue our dreams or we live in an environment that seems so far away from what we truly want. Are these just excuses? Who or what do we hide behind in order to stay in our comfort zone? Being comfortable doesn’t mean we’re happy where we currently are. It could be that we are afraid to step out of our comfort zone because we haven’t learned to trust ourselves in creating and allowing our desires to come to fruition. This process may seem difficult at first, but it does get easier as you move into a better state of mind.

If your feelings and thoughts are positive, they are very powerful. If your feelings and thoughts are negative, they are also very powerful. We can think of this as an extension to the cause/effect theory, where your thoughts and feelings are the cause and the effect is what happens from them.

For example, have you ever been unhappy in your job and thought, what if I can’t get another job? Or maybe you’ve experienced a time when you were alone, without a partner. People ask things like, "Why can’t I find anyone decent?" or "When will I ever find someone with whom I can share my life?" Thoughts like these generate feelings that go directly into your unconscious mind where they create more in the reality of lacking. 

However, have you noticed when you receive a job offer or find a new partner, often you will receive more job offers and meet more potential partners shortly thereafter? This is because you no longer have the unconscious sense of lack which perpetuates more feelings of lack. This becomes a prevailing cycle unless you begin to change the way you feel about yourself.

The unconscious mind is very impressionable and communicates by imagery and feelings. So doesn’t it make sense to use your creative mind to generate your desires into realization? You can use conscious and rational thoughts to generate images and feelings within you that attract your desires and help make you comfortable with the changes that need to take place on the way. 

Here are some ways to become more engaged to your own self-worth. 

Set time aside each day to daydream about what it is you really want. Be open to how you feel and how your thoughts progress. If anything makes you uncomfortable, focus on that for only a moment and then remove it and begin daydreaming again where you left off. The more comfortable you become with your new desire, the easier it will be to obtain.

Here is a technique that I use when I’m feeling blocked. Imagine that you are approaching a wall. It can be as big and tall as you like. On this wall is written what it is that is blocking a particular desire. Acknowledge what that block is and decide if you are willing to keep it or let it go. When you decide to let it go, find a way around this wall. Climb over it, go around it, find a way through it. On the other side of the wall is what life will be like once the obstacle is gone.

If you are hiding behind a situation or person, imagine what it would be like if they were to step aside and let you have what it is you want. Get comfortable with the idea of making the decision to move forward with your desire and notice what feelings it generates. Common feelings will be fear and nervousness. These are normal. Keep imagining a successful outcome and you will stay motivated to move ahead.

Guided imagery allows us to test an experience we desire. It can help us make changes we want more easily. When you become comfortable with your desire, your conscious and unconscious minds work in unison to put it out to the universe so that you receive it faster. 

As you do these things, you will find how much of your self-worth is tied into your reality. Becoming engaged with your self-worth can help you manifest your desires, bringing prosperity into your reality quicker and easier than you ever thought possible. By committing to stepping out from behind other people or negative circumstances, you can employ new strategies to help you have the life that you desire. 

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